Quick answer
Do keep it personal, kind and rehearsed. Do not expose secrets, get drunk before speaking, copy internet jokes word-for-word or overrun the schedule.
Do make it specific
Use real details: a habit, moment or quality that belongs to this couple. Generic praise sounds like a greeting card; one observed detail sounds sincere.
- Confirm pronunciations
- Check the running order
- Bring a printed backup
- Speak more slowly than feels natural
Do not create collateral damage
A joke about the groom can accidentally insult a parent, job, culture or former relationship. Read every line as if the least amused guest were sitting beside you.
Check the practical details
Ask the venue about the microphone, keep water nearby and know where your notes are. Stop editing on the wedding morning unless a fact has changed.
Common questions
Can I use AI to write the speech?
It can help organise ideas, but replace generic material with your own memories and voice.
Should I drink before speaking?
Keep alcohol minimal until after the speech; timing and judgement deteriorate before you notice.