Quick answer
Mention one genuine detail from their profile, add a light reaction and ask a question that can be answered without effort. Avoid comments about bodies or copy-pasted interviews.
Use observation plus question
“That coastal photo looks windy—was the view worth it?” proves you looked and gives a clear route into conversation.
Match their energy
A detailed profile supports a more thoughtful opener; a playful prompt supports humour. Do not force banter when their tone is sincere.
Respect the response
One follow-up is enough if a conversation pauses. Interest must be mutual, and no template overrides boundaries or consent.
Common questions
Is “hey” always bad?
It is not offensive, but it gives the other person all the work. One specific detail improves the chance of a real exchange.
How quickly should I reply?
Reply when you can be present. Manufactured delays are less useful than a normal, respectful conversation.